“kōrerorero nui” “முக்கியமான உரையாடல்கள்” “mukkiyamāṉa uraiyāṭalkaḷ” "kahalagahan ng komunikasyon" “important conversations”
an online resource for all who want to keep ethnic rainbow children safe in Aotearoa New Zealand
Mana and Manaakitanga are in the heart of Aotearoa New Zealand society. In that, we find a diverse craft of cultures, traditions, and communities. Amidst this vibrant craft of the flora and fauna, humans and non-humans, the land and its ancestors, elders past, present and future, the safety and well-being of children are of paramount concern.
This material contains discussions about child sexual harm and abuse, which may be distressing for some readers. Reader discretion is advised. If you need support, please consider reaching out to a trusted friend, family member, or a professional helpline.
This is a generic resource. It should not be taken to constitute mental health or any other type of professional guidance as relevant to your specific situation. If you need professional support, please reach out to a registered service provider.
Most adults want to keep their children safe. The key messages from our communities focus on how important it is for our children to embrace their sex, gender, and sexuality diversity alongside their cultural identities, belongings, and immigration status. There is no one correct way of knowing this. They emphasise the need to have a series of important conversations with adults and children. They can never be a one-off thing. Hence, we suggest, talking again, and again!
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Tangata Whenua and Tangata Tiriti understand that children are one of the most vulnerable sections of our society. However, existing statistics reveal gaps and a lack of information concerning child sexual harm, particularly among children from specific backgrounds, socio-cultural affiliations, differing immigration statuses, and those with special needs - factors that render them more susceptible to harm.
This online resource addresses these gaps through a community-focused and culturally sensitive lens and offers some suggestions to normalise kōrerorero nui important conversations about child sexual harm and abuse.
Why do we call it “kōrerorero nui” “important conversations”
We believe in community-driven collaborative prevention work
Over the past year, Dr Cayathri Divakalala collaborated with Diversity Counselling New Zealand and Hohou te Rongo Kahukura on a project called “Strengthening Community Led Solutions for Child Sexual Abuse Prevention”, commissioned by Accident Compensation Corporation (ACC). This was a vital mission to identify protective factors and values that help to keep our children safe from sexual harm or abuse.
Our approach is distinctively centred on socio-culturally sensitive protective factors, illuminating a path of hope for social change driven by the voices of our communities.
This has not only facilitated but also fortified our connections with the community, establishing foundations of trust and authenticity.
Adikaar Aotearoa hosts this resource intending better outreach to our communities.
Our team comes from various backgrounds of race, ethnicity, sexuality, sex and gender identities, religion, age/generation, region, politics, hobbies, skills, and talents.
In general, several team discussions based on deep reflections and constructive feed forwards have significantly shaped this resource. Read more about the resources created by Diversity Counselling New Zealand and Hohou te Rongo Kahukura:
Preventing CSA for rainbow children - Kōrero mai | Talk to me - supporting parents and caregivers to talk about gender, sexuality and safety with the children in their lives
Preventing CSA in Muslim, Latin American and Japanese contexts
In particular, Cami Carty-Melis and Gaayathri Nair have held many discussions with parents, aunts and uncles, grandparents, caregivers, community leaders, teachers, mentors, and community workers that have directly influenced the content of this particular online resource. Insights from these discussions have been interwoven into various aspects of this online resource.
Meet the incredible members of our community who are experts in this field due to their lived experiences as well as their professional engagements:
They have generously shared their experiences, insights, concerns, and invaluable wisdom. Their collective knowledge reflects what was shared by the communities we have spoken with. We hope that they offer some insights into what our communities have been asking for, and what you are looking for and support you in your journeys of keeping ethnic rainbow children safe.
Nishhza Thiruselvam and Bailey Poching produced kōrerorero in video format, except for a couple of them that were done by Bex Fraser (Sehar Moughal) and Dr Divakalala (Gaayathri Nair).
Kiran Patel provided some technical support. This page was designed by Rachel Bauer from Luna Solutions.
Nur Rafiqah Sulaiman
Sehar is a Pakistani-born Kiwi. She has resided in Aotearoa New Zealand for the last 20 years. Sehar is a registered psychologist and a board-certified behaviour analyst (BCBA). She teaches at the University of Auckland and is pursuing a PhD in Psychology. Sehar’s passion for her work comes from her own lived experiences.
Our communities have been aching to talk
They want to protect children. They want to learn. They want tools. They want to hear from other communities. They want to engage. They want to be the change.
They are asking for:
appropriate conversation starters
how to keep the conversation interactive, non-judgemental, empathetic, trusting, and ongoing
ways of changing the myths around stranger danger
how to address the general discomfort and reluctance to talk about child sexual harm and abuse
how to address cultural differences in discussing sex and sexual harm and abuse from different religious point of views